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I'm not saying it couldn't work; I'm just asking you to think beyond the immediate comfort and initial honeymoon phase, evaluate your doubts and the source of those doubts, and ask yourself if this is what you really want.After thinking it through, if you believe he is still your soul match, then don't let the age gap get in your way.Okay, but consider this: are you drawn to him because he is so settled in his life while you are still putting the pieces of yours together? In my twenties, I dated a man who was eleven years my senior and it was great until I realized I was living vicariously through him.

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Dear Christine, I started dating a man and we have an amazing connection. I had NEVER considered or imagined I would be drawn to someone so much older. Do I turn away what seems to be my perfect match because of the age gap?

We have endless and effortless conversations about the myriad interests we share, he's hilarious (and he thinks I am too), we share the same values in life, I feel like I can be 100% myself with him. Let me be clear, I'm not drawn to him because he "fathers me." I have a great, solid relationship with my dad and have no issues there.

What I realized is that I was trying to skip over my own twenty-something experience by coat-tailing his life.

Sure, we had the same kind of connection you speak about and I really did feel like we were kindred sprits in a lot of ways; however, the unavoidable truth was that we were at very different points of our lives.

It takes a certain amount of compatibility to carry you through the decades ahead. I hear that you are an old soul, but that doesn't necessarily mean you have to date someone significantly older to meet your "soul-match." I say go for a five to seven year age difference.

But bottom-line, you are the only one who really knows if this relationship is a fit.

If you were 40 and he was 55, I would not be as concerned about the age difference as both of you would have had ample time to experience life and mold your identity.

By dating someone so much older, you are missing out on being with someone who is in the same phase of life that you are; someone with whom you can share the joys and pitfalls of discovery.

If I follow what feels right, am I setting myself up for future failure? Usually, we don't question the things we know in our gut to in our best interests.

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